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“Here’s why I forgave my cheating mate”

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“Here’s why I forgave my cheating mate”
If your mate has cheated, forgiving and forgetting might be nearly impossible, right? Well, some people are able to give their straying sweeties another chance. Here, they tell their stories… and give the rest of us plenty of food for thought! 

I forgave my mate…

…because she seemed genuinely remorseful
“After my girlfriend came to me and admitted she had hooked up with another guy, I was crushed. When she told me, though, she seemed so genuinely sad and sorry. Because of this, I decided to forgive her and not break up with her. I could tell she really realized she had messed up and would have done anything to turn back the clock and do things differently. Her being that sincere made me willing to give her another shot.” 
– David, 28, New York, NY 

…because there were kids involved
“I forgave my husband after he cheated on me because we had kids together. For their sake and the sake of our family as a unit, I felt like I had to at least try to make things work instead of just immediately kicking him out, which is what I really felt like doing. We’ve worked on things a lot, and now we’re on the road to getting back on track. It was hard to forget, but I can honestly say I forgave him.” 
– Dawn, 32, Raleigh, NC

…because everyone deserves a second chance
“After my boyfriend cheated on me, I was so hurt. I still loved him, though, so deciding what to do wasn’t really black and white for me. After a lot of back and forth, I decided to forgive him. My friends thought I was crazy, but for me, letting go of someone I cared about so much because of one mistake wasn’t something I could do. I figure that everyone deserves a second chance, but not a third. If he does it again, he’s out, but for now, I’m willing to forgive him.” 
– Talinda, 26, Glen Oaks, NY 

…because he agreed to go into couples counseling
“When my boyfriend admitted to cheating on me, I was conflicted about what to do. I still loved him, but I couldn’t see staying with him and still trusting him. I proposed we go to couples counseling to work on our relationship, and he was in complete agreement. He was very honest and open in the counseling, and seemed committed to working on our issues and making sure we moved forward in a way that involved better communication. It was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done — much harder than I expected! — but we noticed a real improvement in our relationship as a result of the counseling, and it helped me find a way to forgive him and move on.”
– Jane, 31, Alexandria, VA 

…because I loved her — and her family
“I didn’t grow up in a very large or particularly close family, so when I began dating Catherine, who was one of a tight-knit clan of six brothers and sisters, it was like instant family. They were all so warm and fun to be around; it was a total relationship bonus. Things were going really well until I found out that she had cheated on me. I was very upset, so when she begged me to try to work things out, it was tough to say yes. When I thought about losing her, though, I couldn’t imagine that — both because of my feelings for her and for her family. I decided to give it another go-around, and so far, we’re doing a good job of working on moving past it.” 
– Trey, 29, Lansing, MI 

…because I’d almost strayed before, too
“In the very early stages of my relationship with my boyfriend, I sort of cheated on him with my ex. Technically, maybe I didn’t cheat, but I definitely crossed a line… I never told him because I realized it was a huge mistake that I’d never make again. A few months later, he admitted he had cheated on me with one of his business school classmates. I was hurt, but I felt like I didn’t really have much of a right to be upset with him, considering what I had done. I chose to forgive him and give him another chance, because I know that people all make mistakes. We’re both going forward with a new sense of commitment, and I’m feeling very hopeful about our future together.” 
– Nicole, 25, Jersey City, NJ 



Posted: December 29, 2013 in life, Uncategorized
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where did I go wrong I just saw some art that was lines in different colors that sold for fucken $10,000 I’am in the wrong busines can some body give a  pack of crayons and a big ass piece of paper SO I CAN MAKE SOME MONEY and people get mad when you say hey that looks like something my 5 year old son did and then some french up tight bitch looks at you with her high ass check bones and says it is art but you are deprived  of such a gift uh no bitch I no art and I no shit and looking at this picture and your face is making my stomach bubble AND SHE SAID WHO DO YOU THINK YOU ARE i SAID I’M GRIZZLYJONES2012@WORDPRESS.COM GO FUCK YOUR MOTHER THEN SHE SAID NO HOW ABOUT I FUCK YOU


Forbes’ just released this list of the world’s highest-paid authors. The top 10 are as follows. ClickHERE to see more.

 1. E.L. James: $95 million

E L James - Book Signing

In addition to record sales from her sultry Fifty Shades of Grey trilogy (bolstered by strong e-book sales), James earned an extra $5 million for the movie rights to the book, Forbes says. The film is slated to release in 2014.

2. James Patterson: $91 million

The world's best-selling author James Patterson

The prolific thriller author can boast that one out of every 17 hardcover books sold in the U.S. bears his name. Part of his secret to success? Releasing around 10 new books a year—often with the help of cowriters. When collaborating on a book, Patterson creates an outline, a cowriter does the first draft, and he finishes up with whatever other drafts are necessary. “Some people can’t get past the word cowriter,’’  Patterson told Parade last year. “Lots of shows and movies are written by teams, so it’s not such a strange thing.” But the Maximum Ride and Alex Cross author is no laggard: “I write seven days a week,” he said.

3. Suzanne Collins: $55 million

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Her Hunger Games series was already popular before the film starring Jennifer Lawrence became a sensation. But now, the former children’s television writer has reached the “Olympian heights of J.K. Rowling and Stephenie Meyer,” Forbes writes.

4. Bill O’Reilly: $28 million

Political Commentator BILL O'REILLY

Who knew the Fox News pundit had become such a successful writer? His nonfiction books Killing Lincoln and Killing Kennedy soared to the top of best seller lists, and Forbes predicts his next, Killing Jesus, could be even bigger.

5. Danielle Steel: $26 million

Danielle Steel

The romance novelist publishes an average of more than three books per year, totaling more than 600 million copies.

6. Jeff Kinney: $24 million

Wimpy Kid Author

Kinney’s Diary of a Wimpy Kid series is one of the most popular kids’ titles in recent memory. Plus, there have been three movie versions adapted from the books.

7. Janet Evanovich: $24 million

Janet Evanovich

The writer made her millions thanks to the New York Times bestselling Stephanie Plum detective series, as well as twelve romance novels and the Alexandra Barnaby books and graphic novels.

8. Nora Roberts: $23 million

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The longtime romance novelist has become “the queen of the e-book,” Forbes writes, with the 3.2 million digital copies sold in 2012 (she’s second only to E.L. James).

9. Dan Brown: $22 million

Dan Brown 'Inferno' Book Launch Event

Though Inferno, Brown’s latest Robert Langdon novel, didn’t reach the kind of success The Da Vinci Code and The Lost Symbol achieved, it was still the best-selling book of the first half of 2013.

10. Stephen King: $20 million

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The master storyteller has written best sellers and literary fiction that have made the leap to film, TV, and the stage. Still, he says it’s not the monetary rewards that keep him writing. “The major job is still to entertain people,” he told Parade in May. “That’s what we’re supposed to do—writers, filmmakers, all of us.”

1. “Identify yo…

Posted: December 28, 2013 in life, Uncategorized

1. “Identify your problems but give your power and energy to solutions.” Tony Robbins

2. “You live longer once you realize that any time spent being unhappy is wasted.” Ruth E. Renkl

3. “The only true wisdom is knowing that you know nothing.” Socrates

4. “Things work out best for those who make the best of how things work out.” John Wooden

5. “Let no feeling of discouragement prey upon you, and in the end you are sure to succeed.” Abraham Lincoln

6. ” If you are not willing to risk the usual you will have to settle for the ordinary.” Jim Rohn

7. “Trust because you are willing to accept the risk, not because it’s safe or certain.” Anonymous

8. “When your life flashes before your eyes, make sure you’ve got plenty to watch.” Anonymous

9. “Screw it, Let’s do it!” Richard Branson

10. “Be content to act, and leave the talking to others.” Baltasa

11. “Innovation distinguishes between a leader and a follower.” Steve Jobs

12. “The more you loose yourself in something bigger than yourself, the more energy you will have.” Norman Vincent Peale

13. “If your ship doesn’t come in, swim out to meet it!” Jonathan Winters

14. “People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing – that’s why we recommend it daily.” Zig Ziglar

15. “Courage is being scared to death, but saddling up anyway.” John Wayne

16.“Too many of us are not living our dreams because we are living our fears.” Les Brown

17. “The link between my experience as an entrepreneur and that of a politician is all in one word: freedom.” Silvio Berlusconi

18. “The entrepreneur builds an enterprise; the technician builds a job.” Michael Gerber

19. “A real entrepreneur is somebody who has no safety net underneath them.” Henry Kravis

20. “Most new jobs won’t come from our biggest employers. They will come from our smallest. We’ve got to do everything we can to make entrepreneurial dreams a reality.” Ross Perot

21. “My son is now an ‘entrepreneur’. That’s what you’re called when you don’t have a job.” Ted Turner

22. “As we look ahead into the next century, leaders will be those who empower others.” Bill Gates

23. “As long as you’re going to be thinking anyway, think big.” Donald Trump

24. “If you want to achieve excellence, you can get there today. As of this second, quit doing less-than-excellent work.” Thomas J Watson

25. “Opportunity is missed by most people because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work.” Thomas Edison

26. “The only place where success comes before work is in the dictionary.” Vidal Sassoon

27. “Capital isn’t scarce; vision is.” Sam Walton

28. “Failure defeats losers, failure inspires winners.” Robert T. Kiyosaki

29. “Some people dream of great accomplishments, while others stay awake and do them.” Anonymous

30. “I will tell you how to become rich. Close the doors. Be fearful when others are greedy. Be greedy when others are fearful.” Warren Buffet

31. “Going into business for yourself, becoming an entrepreneur, is the modern-day equivalent of pioneering on the old frontier.” Paula Nelson

32. “Poor people have big TV. Rich people have big library.” Jim Rohn

33. “A goal is a dream with a deadline.” Napoleon Hill

34. “Every day I get up and look through the Forbes list of the richest people in America. If I’m not there, I go to work.” Vinnie Rege

35. “Expect the best. Prepare for the worst. Capitalize on what comes.” Zig Ziglar

36. “People are not lazy. They simply have important goals – that is, goals that do not inspire them.” Tony Robbins

37. “Nobody talks of entrepreneurship as survival, but that’s exactly what it is.” Anita Roddick

38. “The best reason to start an organization is to make meaning; to create a product or service to make the world a better place.” Guy Kawasaki

39. “A friendship founded on business is a good deal better than a business founded on friendship.” John D. Rockefeller

40. “I’ve been blessed to find people who are smarter than I am, and they help me to execute the vision I have.” Russell Simmons

41. “I find that when you have a real interest in life and a curious life, that sleep is not the most important thing.” Martha Stewart

42. “Logic will get you from A to B. Imagination will take you everywhere.” Albert Einstein

43. “Success is liking yourself, liking what you do, and liking how you do it.” Maya Angelou

44. “Success is walking from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.” Winston Churchill

45. “The function of leadership is to produce more leaders, not more followers.” Ralph Nader

46. “Without continual growth and progress, such words as improvement, achievement, and success have no meaning.” Benjamin Franklin

47. “Big pay and little responsibility are circumstances seldom found together.” Napoleon Hill

48. Make your product easier to buy than your competition, or you will find your customers buying from them, not you.” Mark Cuban

49. “The road to success and the road to failure are almost exactly the same.” Colin R. Davis

50. “If you don’t have a competitive advantage, don’t compete.” Jack Welch

Do you hear stories about people cutting the cable cord and streaming all their TV and movie content “for free” and think, “That could be me – saving money!”

Well, before you pick up your phone, you should do some number-crunching, says Russ Crupnick, a senior vice president and industry analyst with NPD Group, a consulting firm that studies consumer trends.

He says that while some people could indeed save money by streaming their content rather than paying for cable or satellite TV, they’d probably have to give up a lot, such as live sports or news for starters. Even then, he’s not so sure the savings are there.

“I got out the calculator and asked what would happen if I got rid of cable and some premium channels and replaced those hours with other services. And you know what? I didn’t save any money,” says Crupnick.

So, is cutting the cable cord and streaming all your content really a money-saver, or just a big headache? Let’s dig deeper. 

An Outline of the Costs

Before we get into the sometimes messy details of cable and streaming with some real-world examples, let’s outline the general costs of some of your options.

Cable/Satellite TV: This cost varies widely depending on your location and provider, but according to one government study cited by Senator John McCain*, “expanded basic” cable service averages $54 for the nation in 2013. A Consumer Reports 2012 article titled “Cut your Telecom Bill” claimed basic cable, which includes local cable and about 20 basic channels, such as CNN, E!, and Discovery ran $25 to $35. If you add premium channels such as HBO, Cinemax, and others, the price goes up.


Over the Top Content (OTT): This is the streamable stuff – the TV and movies that you can access via an Internet connection even if you don’t subscribe to cable. The best known are Netflix ($7.99 per month, streaming only option; no DVDs), Hulu Plus ($7.99 per month), Amazon Instant Video (start at $2.99 per movie or TV episode), Vudu ($2.99 per TV episode; $3.99 and up for movies), and iTunes (about $1.99 – $2.99 per TV episode; 2.99 and up for movie rentals).

Internet Connection: If you want to dump cable and stream all your content, you’ll need an Internet connection that has enough bandwidth to stream high-definition (HD) video. This, according to the Consumer Reports article, should be at least 6 to 12 Mbps. Again, the cost varies throughout the country, but Crupnick says to expect to pay about $40 per month (the cost comes down if you bundle it with a cable subscription).

Hardware: Finally, you’ll need the actual equipment to access services like Netflix, Hulu Plus, and the others. There is a wide variety of these, from smart TVs that connect directly to the Internet through your web connection, and have apps for favorite streaming services, to DVD players and game consoles that do the same. Cost varies, of course.


Now for some real life examples…

Free Streaming of Network Shows

It’s hard to beat free, and it turns out that many network shows on channels like NBC, ABC, or Fox, are available for free over the Internet on the proprietary website within days or even hours of their original air date. So, if you have the equipment and an Internet connection, this is a viable alternative to cable for watching some of your favorite shows.

It’s not all pizza and popcorn, however. Issues do arise, as 52-year-old Ann Cody of Honolulu, Hawaii discovered when she did a “test run” to see what life without cable would be like.

“I was thinking of canceling my cable, but before I did I wanted to see if I’d still be able to watch my favorite shows,” says Cody, who pays about $49 for cable and the premium channel HBO.

Cody is “addicted” to three network shows, she says: “Castle” (ABC), “Sleepy Hollow” (Fox), and “Dancing with the Stars” (ABC).

To her delight, those shows were available online the day after they aired, for free, from the network websites. The bad news was that since she didn’t have a smart TV (that could access the Internet), she had to watch them on her computer. Smart TVs are expensive, she says, and she wasn’t about to buy one – that would defeat her goal of saving money.

“If I had a computer that has an [input for an] HDMI cable, I probably could have bought a cable and hooked it up to my HDTV,” Cody says.

So if you have a smart TV, computer with an HDMI input, or if you’ve recently scored a Chromecast, you can stream many network shows and still watch them on your big screen TV – for free.

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Streaming Premium Channels’ Original Series

While network TV shows might be available for free online soon after their original air date, the same is not true for original series aired on premium cable channels such as HBO, AMC, and others.

So, if you’re into one of their programs, you’ll either have to sign up for cable, or wait for it to come out on OTT providers such as Netflix, Hulu Plus, iTunes, or Amazon Instant Video. In some cases, you may be charged per episode.

But, says Crupnick, the cost is not merely monetary.

“The bigger issue for most people is time. If you want to watch the new season of an HBO or AMC show when it comes out, you’ll need cable. Otherwise, you’ll have to wait a year or so for it to be licensed to Netflix or Amazon.”

And if a $7.99 per month subscription to Netflix sounds like a bargain, it could be. Or it couldn’t, as Crupnick himself discovered, the hard way.

Like so many other viewers, Crupnick got hooked on “Breaking Bad,” the hit AMC series about a high school teacher turned drug dealer that hooked so many viewers. Unfortunately, Crupnick came to the party late, accessing season one through his Netflix account, which he had in addition to cable service.

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Unfortunately, in real time, on cable, the series was on season five. But Netflix only had seasons one through three at the time.

“So I ended up spending $35 for season four on iTunes to catch up,” he says. At that point, he could watch it on cable on its first air dates. And he was happy about that.

But if he didn’t have cable, it would have been another $2.99 per episode, he says.

The Soft Costs

The truth is, your decision on whether or not to drop cable might not be measured in dollars and cents, but rather soft costs, says Cody.

She calls one the “spoiler” cost which his amplified through Twitter feeds and Facebook pages, with fans and sometimes even show hosts Tweeting as the show airs.  

There are also things like sports and news, two things that are traditionally considered crown jewels of cable, says Rick Herman, chief strategy officer for MobiTV, which works with network and cable providers to make subscribers’ content is available on mobile devices.

“People like to watch news and sports live, as they happen,” says Herman. And because these are difficult to access without cable – he says they’re critical to your equation of whether or not to cut cable.

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Is A La Carte Streaming Really Cost Effective? 

Here’s the part where we add up the cost of cutting cable. The trouble is, like the value of your favorite vacation spot, the math gets kind of personal and fuzzy. But let’s do our best with the numbers we do have.

Let’s say your cable bill is $44.50 a month (the average from the Consumer Reports article’s top end of $35 and Senator John McCain’s government average figure of $54). 

Now let’s assume you cut cable and stream your content. Here are some costs. We’ll use the Nielson Q2 2013 Cross-Platform Report, which found the average consumer watched four hours and 43 minutes of TV a day, or 33 hours of TV per week. That’s about 140 hours a month.

If you filled those hours with streaming, here’s a possible breakdown of how you’d do it and what it would cost. (This assumes you have an internet connection):

Netflix subscription: A stream only option, with limited choices and no DVDs: $7.99 per month.

Hulu Plus subscription: A service that allows you to stream many currently running TV shows, with limited commercials: $7.99 per month.

iTunes or Amazon Instant Video: Three episodes a week of shows you can’t find on either Netflix or Hulu Plus using a pay per episode service such as iTunes or Amazon Instant Video: $2.99 per episode; $39 per month.

Grand Total: $54.98.

This price will range depending on what you want to watch after you cut the cord. So, before you make any drastic decisions, make sure to weigh your options carefully to ensure you’re taking the route that will actually save you money.

The Top Five WWE Superstars of 2013

Posted: December 28, 2013 in life, Uncategorized

5. Big E Langston

After serving as the muscle for AJ Lee and Dolph Ziggler, Big E Langston finally began to realize the potential for greatness in 2013 he had shown in NXT. After Paul Heyman helped him execute a nice babyface turn, Langston defeated Curtis Axel late in 2013 to win the prestigious WWE Intercontinental Championship. To take his character to the next level, the WWE must let Big E Langston start talking more, which he showed a great talent for doing in NXT.

4. John Cena

After struggling for much of 2012, John Cena won a big match against The Rock at WrestleMania 29. In 2013, Cena also showed he is still capable of great wrestling matches, as he had against Daniel Bryan at SummerSlam. Cena’s best promo of 2013 was rescuing an impending disaster as Daniel Bryan’s fans were in a frenzy on the last edition of Raw before TLC. Cena’s only real blemish of 2013 was failing to win the WWE World Heavyweight Championship.

3. Randy Orton

Randy Orton’s pro wrestling career had been in limbo for several years before 2013. However, The Authority chose him to be the face of the WWE at SummerSlam. Although most wrestling fans weren’t happy with Orton this year, it’s important to remember that he’s a heel and he’s doing his job well if the fans hate him. Although Randy Orton needed lots of help to win most of his main event pay-per-view matches in 2013, he defeated John Cena on his own at TLC.

2. Goldust

If anyone had predicted that Goldust would be one of the WWE’s top five Superstars of 2013, then he must be in contact with Nostradamus. Goldust returned to the WWE as part of Cody Rhodes’ firing storyline. Although it seems like Goldust has been around forever, he actually started wrestling at a very young age and he’s still only 44 years old. Goldust wrestled to critical acclaim in 2013 by toning down his bizarre character and working incredible matches.

1. Daniel Bryan

Daniel Bryan proved there is still room at the top of the WWE for an outstanding wrestler. Bryan broke the mold of previous WWE main event Superstars by letting his wrestling do most of his talking in 2013. Although The Authority thwarted most of Bryan’s visions of grandeur in 2013, he did win the WWE Championship on two occasions. Despite finishing 2013 out of the WWE title picture, Daniel Bryan is still the most popular Superstar in the promotion.

And if that isn’t enough to prove he had the best year of any WWE wrestler, keep in mind he also got engaged to Brie Bella in 2013.

A massive Christmas-night brawl involving some 600 people outside a Florida movie theater led to the arrests of five teenagers in Jacksonville.

600-Person Brawl At Florida Movie Theater; 5 Arrested
Five teens were arrested following a 600-person brawl outside a Jacksonville, Fla., movie theater.Twitter/@ChampionNewsNet

The 600-person melee began around 8:30 p.m. Wednesday, when a group of people tried to get inside the Hollywood River City 14 movie theater in Jacksonville without buying tickets, police told ABC News.

An off-duty police officer working as a security guard pepper sprayed the group, locked the doors of the theater and called for backup, according to Jacksonville Sheriff’s Office spokeswoman Lauri-Ellen Smith.

About 60 officers responded to the movie theater to try and control the 600 people who were “yelling and fighting” at the Jacksonville shopping center where the movie theater is housed, according to the Florida Times-Union.

An initial crowd of teens fled the scene, but then “what can only be described as a melee” involving 600 people unfolded,” Smith told the paper. She said some of the participants in the 600-person brawl were “fighting, disrupting, jumping on cars.”

The brawl reportedly lasted for around 90 minutes before officers were able to break it up.

Koby Etheridge, a 16-year-old who was at the theater, was inside when the large fight broke out.

“We were inside our movie and people were outside beating each other,” he told the Times-Union, calling the people involved in the 600-person brawl “stupid and ignorant.”

“They shouldn’t be out on here Christmas,” he said.

Victims of the fight only suffered minor injuries, according to ABC News. Damage to property was also minimal, and no shots were fired during the brawl.

Five teenagers were arrested on charges related to the melee, including three who face felony charges. The other two face misdemeanor charges.

The three teens facing the serious charges were identified as 19-year-old Treyn Alonza Davis, 18-year-old Jaquade Marquis Miller and 17-year-old Khalil Ahmad Bradley

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Posted: December 24, 2013 in life, Uncategorized
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Success does no…

Posted: December 24, 2013 in life, Uncategorized

Success does not lie in “Results” but in “Efforts”,
“Being” the best is not so important,
“Doing” the best is all that matters…

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Posted: December 24, 2013 in life, Uncategorized