Elijah wakes up in a cage, and can barely remember anything about himself or his situation. He fights his way alone to escape a building full of bizarre and deadly monsters, while learning disturbing truths about himself. Once he finds the way out, he has to pass it up and keep fighting to rescue hiw wife and child from his nemesis.
has previously published three other books and various short stories, as well as spending two years as a journalist for The Michigan Daily Newspaper. He studied creative writing under the tutelage of Jonis Agee, author of “Strange Angels” and “South of Resurrection.”
Growing up in Ontario, Canada, M.J. was the only child of a single mom. Her passion for the arts ignited at a young age as she wrote adventure stories and read them aloud to close family and friends. The dramatic arts became a focus in high school as an aid to understanding character motivation in her writing. Majoring in Theatre Production at York University, with a minor in English, she went on to teach both elementary and high school for 10 years throughout Simcoe County. M.J. currently lives with her husband and young son in Caledon, Ontario. She keeps busy these days with her emerging authors’ website Infinite Pathways: hosting writing contests, providing editing services, free publicity tips, book reviews, and opportunities for authors to build their writing platform and portfolio. In addition she writes articles and edits freelance as she continues her own creative writing working toward completing the next book in the Chronicles Series. Time’s Tempest: The Chronicles of Xannia (1) is M.J.’s debut science fiction novel. She firmly believes that if she hadn’t been born a Virgo, she wouldn’t be half as organized as she needs to be to get everything done from one day to the next.
Facebook ranked 50 major cities with the best odds for turning a “Single” status to “In a relationship”
Colorado Springs, with its snow-capped Rocky Mountain backdrop, is home to the U.S. Air Force Academy and the U.S. Olympic Committee.
It is also the most romantic major U.S. city. According to data gathered by researchers at Facebook Inc., Colorado Springs residents couple up in committed relationships at a higher rate than in other major cities.
The city isn’t a theme park for the hopelessly smitten, though. One explanation for its apparently high relationship rate: Strong military and religious communities help promote traditional values, social scientists and residents say.
Colorado Springs also is a college town and an outdoor sports hub attracting more men than women. It’s a place where people keep fit, active and social, and the growing downtown bar scene probably doesn’t hurt.
With Valentine’s Day approaching, we asked Facebook for some help settling a perennial debate: Where is the best place in America to live if you are single and looking for love?
Many have tried using U.S. census data to rank cities based on each one’s singles population. But Facebook, with 201 million users in the U.S. and Canada, has something the Census Bureau doesn’t: Real-time relationship statuses for about half of Americans. Over a one-month period, Facebook ranked major U.S. cities according to the percentage of singles that went from “Single” to “In a relationship.”
Finding a partner is an evermore complicated endeavor in the U.S. Researchers say more people are postponing serious relationships in favor of careers and considering more factors as they search for the ideal mate.
More choice isn’t necessarily a good thing when it comes to relationships, says Justin Garcia, a professor in the department of gender studies at Indiana University and a researcher at the Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender and Reproduction.
“Sometimes when you’re in a big city and there are thousands and thousands of people you might find attractive, it becomes so overwhelming that you don’t engage in the dating culture at all,” he says.
Overall, the Facebook data seems to back up Dr. Garcia’s hypothesis: Big cities like San Francisco and New York had some of the lowest rates of coupling up. The data team also identified cities with high single male-to-female ratios and vice versa.
The most popular social network, it turns out, can also serve as the world’s biggest survey. Facebook’s 1.23 billion monthly active users world-wide constantly feed the company invaluable data.
An informal working group of stats whizzes and Ph.Ds on Facebook’s data sciences team did the Valentine’s Day analysis in October, using anonymous profile information gathered in the 50 U.S. cities with the most Facebook users. “This is a side project for us,” says Mike Develin, the main researcher in the informal working group on relationships. “Forgive the pun, but it’s our passion.”
Facebook’s data is by no means perfect. Some people don’t bother updating the relationship status on their Facebook profile when they begin and end a relationship, for instance. And Facebook didn’t break down the numbers by age or other demographics.
Overall, Facebook found that big, cosmopolitan cities with highly educated populations—places like New York City, Washington, D.C., and Miami—tend to have the highest percentages of single people. Those cities also tended to have the lowest couples rates.
A lot of cities with high relationship rates are in the South, Mr. Develin notes. Trailing Colorado Springs on the list are El Paso, Texas; Louisville, Ky., Fort Worth, Texas, and San Antonio.
That was no surprise to Philip Cohen, sociology professor the Maryland Population Research Center at the University of Maryland. The Facebook data says more about the prevalence of traditional dating culture in the South than about which individual cities are singles meccas, he says.
He advises people in search of a relationship to go where there are lots of other single people, not where there are high couples rates. “You only need to form one relationship, but you might want a lot of singles to choose from,” he said, in an email.
David Siegel, a 24-year-old violinist, doesn’t fit the stereotype some people may associate with Colorado Springs, where he grew up. He moved back from New York over a year ago. “I’ve found it a good place to be single,” Mr. Siegel says, citing the thriving bars, restaurants and art galleries.
New York’s dating scene was a “rat race,” he says. People in Colorado Springs seem more interested in a lasting relationship. “Playing the game has a lot less do it with it,” he says.
Alejandro Ganem, a 28-year-old El Paso resident, said he often feels pressure to couple up—especially in a city big enough to support a vibrant night life but small enough for word to travel fast. “When I start dating a girl, immediately she starts hearing about me,” he says, including things about his ex-girlfriends. Sometimes a woman will pressure him to change his Facebook status to signal that he’s off the market, he says.
Not all cities with a high relationship ranking are in the South. Portland, Ore., is a city so progressive that it spawned a TV show lampooning its culture, and it has a higher relationship rank than Houston; Richmond, Va., and Nashville, Tenn. Portland also had a high single male-to-female ratio, beating even Anchorage, Alaska. Some of those cities weren’t big enough to make the Top 50 ranking.
Single ladies, take note: Cities near outdoor recreation tend to have a high proportions of single men. Among places with the highest, Facebook says, are outdoor hubs like Livingston, Mont.; Boise, Idaho; and Vancouver, Wash.—which all were too small to make the Top 50 ranking—and, again, Colorado Springs.
Life in those towns isn’t easy for single men. “It’s horrible,” says David Fischer, a 48-year-old Honeywell International Inc. project manager in Colorado Springs. He turned to eHarmony to find his future fiancée, Kara Galvin, who lives in Denver, about an hour’s drive north. They plan to get married this summer.
Although researchers hypothesize that religious cities would rank higher in relationship rates, the Facebook analysis found exceptions. Charlotte, N.C., and Nashville are among the nation’s most religious cities, according to the American Bible Association, but they both ranked low on Facebook’s list of relationship cities.
El Paso and San Antonio may owe their spots in the top five relationship cities to their Mexican heritage, says Andrew Cherlin a sociology professor at Johns Hopkins University. “Hispanics tend to marry early,” he said.
Eric Diaz, a 35-year-old dairy buyer at Whole Foods Market who grew up in San Antonio, says most of his friends met their spouses while in high school or college and got hitched in their 20s. He married Genefe Diaz, who moved to San Antonio after she graduated from college. When she arrived, many young professionals in town were already coupled up, she says. “San Antonio is just a really big small town,” Ms. Diaz says. To find suitable men, “you really had to dig.”
people speak every year what they are going to do to bring the new year in right and they do none of it .you might get the one girl who always say she will find a good man that will love her for her but she don’t love her self or you get the guy that say fuck bitches get money but still have not had sex in the last two years and the check he gets is snatched by child support .People make these promises to themselves to keep from feeling like failures no one looks at you more than you look at yourself and the worst failure one can have is when one fails his or her self so before you promise yourself what your gonna change for the new year just believe in your heart you can do it . and here a little history for you
The tradition of New Year’s resolutions dates all the way back to 153 B.C. January is named after Janus, a mythical god of early Rome.Janus had two faces — one looking forward, one looking backward. This allowed him to look back on the past and forward toward the future.On December 31, the Romans imagined Janus looking backward into the old year and forward into the new year. This became a symbolic time for Romans to make resolutions for the new year and forgive enemies for troubles in the past.The Romans also believed Janus could forgive them for their wrongdoings in the previous year. The Romans would give gifts and make promises, believing Janus would see this and bless them in the year ahead.
If your mate has cheated, forgiving and forgetting might be nearly impossible, right? Well, some people are able to give their straying sweeties another chance. Here, they tell their stories… and give the rest of us plenty of food for thought!
I forgave my mate…
…because she seemed genuinely remorseful “After my girlfriend came to me and admitted she had hooked up with another guy, I was crushed. When she told me, though, she seemed so genuinely sad and sorry. Because of this, I decided to forgive her and not break up with her. I could tell she really realized she had messed up and would have done anything to turn back the clock and do things differently. Her being that sincere made me willing to give her another shot.” – David, 28, New York, NY
…because there were kids involved “I forgave my husband after he cheated on me because we had kids together. For their sake and the sake of our family as a unit, I felt like I had to at least try to make things work instead of just immediately kicking him out, which is what I really felt like doing. We’ve worked on things a lot, and now we’re on the road to getting back on track. It was hard to forget, but I can honestly say I forgave him.” – Dawn, 32, Raleigh, NC
…because everyone deserves a second chance “After my boyfriend cheated on me, I was so hurt. I still loved him, though, so deciding what to do wasn’t really black and white for me. After a lot of back and forth, I decided to forgive him. My friends thought I was crazy, but for me, letting go of someone I cared about so much because of one mistake wasn’t something I could do. I figure that everyone deserves a second chance, but not a third. If he does it again, he’s out, but for now, I’m willing to forgive him.” – Talinda, 26, Glen Oaks, NY
…because he agreed to go into couples counseling “When my boyfriend admitted to cheating on me, I was conflicted about what to do. I still loved him, but I couldn’t see staying with him and still trusting him. I proposed we go to couples counseling to work on our relationship, and he was in complete agreement. He was very honest and open in the counseling, and seemed committed to working on our issues and making sure we moved forward in a way that involved better communication. It was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done — much harder than I expected! — but we noticed a real improvement in our relationship as a result of the counseling, and it helped me find a way to forgive him and move on.” – Jane, 31, Alexandria, VA
…because I loved her — and her family “I didn’t grow up in a very large or particularly close family, so when I began dating Catherine, who was one of a tight-knit clan of six brothers and sisters, it was like instant family. They were all so warm and fun to be around; it was a total relationship bonus. Things were going really well until I found out that she had cheated on me. I was very upset, so when she begged me to try to work things out, it was tough to say yes. When I thought about losing her, though, I couldn’t imagine that — both because of my feelings for her and for her family. I decided to give it another go-around, and so far, we’re doing a good job of working on moving past it.” – Trey, 29, Lansing, MI
…because I’d almost strayed before, too “In the very early stages of my relationship with my boyfriend, I sort of cheated on him with my ex. Technically, maybe I didn’t cheat, but I definitely crossed a line… I never told him because I realized it was a huge mistake that I’d never make again. A few months later, he admitted he had cheated on me with one of his business school classmates. I was hurt, but I felt like I didn’t really have much of a right to be upset with him, considering what I had done. I chose to forgive him and give him another chance, because I know that people all make mistakes. We’re both going forward with a new sense of commitment, and I’m feeling very hopeful about our future together.” – Nicole, 25, Jersey City, NJ
1.) Give your time. Volunteer at a soup kitchen, resthome or hospice. Such places rely on caregivers who also need a break over the summer holidays.
2.) Donate to a foodbank. City missions or the local Salvation Army are a good place to take a food parcel. Many provide families with Christmas Day packages which include treats, so don’t limit your donations to tinned food and other staples. The SPCA, which often gets unwanted pets after Christmas, is another deserving place to take donations.
3.) Get your gifts wrapped by a fundraising stall. Many charities, including Mary Potter Hospice in Wellington, are providing gift-wrapping in exchange for a gold coin donation. This writer is wrapping outside Borders on Wellington’s Lambton Quay this Sunday!
4.) Buy charity Christmas cards or gifts. Oxfam offers itsunwrapped gift service where you can purchase “presents” such as goats, ducks, or seeds for planting. The recipient then receives a voucher stating the gift they have donated.
5.) Swap Secret Santa for Charity Santa. Instead of spending $5 on some unwanted item for a colleague why not get everyone in the office to put $5 in and then put their name and chosen charity into a hat. Who-ever’s charity is selected then gets all the money to donate to their selected cause.
6.) Clean Your closets. Do your children have toys or clothes that have been sitting, untouched, for a few years? Why not give these items to a charity store so other children can benefit.
7.) Visit a neighbour or elderly person. Christmas can be a lonely time, especially for the elderly living alone. Why not pop next door and say ‘hello’ and while you’re at it see if you can help with the Christmas shop, or perhaps posting some cards.
8.) Offer to babysit for friends or family so they can have a “date night” or a bit of a break from the kids during the busiest time of year.
9.) Make a New Year’s resolution to get more involved in your community. Sign up to coach a local sports team, dog walking for others or tutor kids with their exams.
10.) Do a random act of kindness! Buy some scratch tickets, pop them in an envelope with “Merry Christmas” on the outside and deliver to people on the street with a big smile.